Single and Pursuing IVF: Stories and Insights
Once upon a time, parenthood was viewed as something you waited for “the right partner” to begin. Today, more people than ever are redefining that timeline and choosing to start their families on their terms.
Once upon a time, parenthood was viewed as something you waited for “the right partner” to begin. Today, more people than ever are redefining that timeline—and choosing to start their families on their own terms. At Reproductive Centers of America, we proudly support single individuals pursuing IVF, whether by choice, circumstance, or a deep sense of personal calling. Here’s what we’ve learned from the many journeys we've been honored to be part of, and what you might want to know if you're considering the same path.
Why Some People Choose Solo Parenthood
Every story is different, but here are some of the most common reasons single individuals choose IVF:
- You’ve always wanted to be a parent, and the right partner hasn’t come along.
- You’re in your mid-to-late 30s or 40s, and feel the biological clock ticking.
- You’ve frozen your eggs and now feel ready to use them.
- You have a strong support system—friends, family, community—and don’t feel the need to wait.
- You’re financially stable and ready to invest in family building.
What ties these stories together is courage—and the belief that love, not relationship status, makes a family.
What Does the IVF Process Look Like for a Single Parent?
At RCA, we personalize every journey, but the general path includes:
- Fertility Evaluation: Hormone testing (AMH, FSH, estradiol), ultrasound, and consultation with your reproductive endocrinologist.
- Choosing a Sperm Donor: You can use a known donor or select one through a secure donor bank. We provide legal, medical, and emotional guidance through this process.
- Ovarian Stimulation & Egg Retrieval: Your eggs are stimulated, retrieved, and fertilized with donor sperm in our lab.
- Embryo Creation & Transfer: Embryos are monitored, optionally tested (PGT-A), and transferred based on timing and your goals.
- Pregnancy Support: If successful, we transition you to obstetric care with ongoing support and celebration.
We also offer egg freezing for those still planning, or gestational surrogacy if carrying a pregnancy is not an option.
Emotional Realities of Going It Alone
Going through IVF solo can be both empowering and isolating. Here’s what our patients have shared:
- “I felt strong—but I also needed to be held sometimes.”
- “People asked why I didn’t wait. They didn’t realize—I didn’t want to wait to live my life.”
- “Support matters. My sister came to every appointment. My best friend threw my baby shower.”
That’s why RCA builds emotional support into every part of care: patient coordinators who know you by name, therapists who specialize in solo parenting, and a community that gets it.
Planning for the Future—Your Way
Solo parents often think not just about pregnancy, but about parenting long-term. Questions to explore include:
- What kind of support will I need postpartum?
- Do I want my child to have a relationship with their donor?
- Should I tell my employer now, later, or not at all?
- How will I talk to my child about their origin story?
We walk with you through these conversations—not just the science.
You Are Not Alone—Even When You’re “Solo”
Thousands of individuals around the world have built beautiful families on their own—and so can you. If you’ve been wondering whether it’s time, or whether you’re “allowed” to take this step without a partner… the answer is yes. You are allowed. You are enough. You are not alone.
Why Some People Choose Solo Parenthood
Every story is different, but here are some of the most common reasons single individuals choose IVF:
- You’ve always wanted to be a parent, and the right partner hasn’t come along.
- You’re in your mid-to-late 30s or 40s, and feel the biological clock ticking.
- You’ve frozen your eggs and now feel ready to use them.
- You have a strong support system—friends, family, community—and don’t feel the need to wait.
- You’re financially stable and ready to invest in family building.
What ties these stories together is courage—and the belief that love, not relationship status, makes a family.
What Does the IVF Process Look Like for a Single Parent?
At RCA, we personalize every journey, but the general path includes:
- Fertility Evaluation: Hormone testing (AMH, FSH, estradiol), ultrasound, and consultation with your reproductive endocrinologist.
- Choosing a Sperm Donor: You can use a known donor or select one through a secure donor bank. We provide legal, medical, and emotional guidance through this process.
- Ovarian Stimulation & Egg Retrieval: Your eggs are stimulated, retrieved, and fertilized with donor sperm in our lab.
- Embryo Creation & Transfer: Embryos are monitored, optionally tested (PGT-A), and transferred based on timing and your goals.
- Pregnancy Support: If successful, we transition you to obstetric care with ongoing support and celebration.
We also offer egg freezing for those still planning, or gestational surrogacy if carrying a pregnancy is not an option.
Emotional Realities of Going It Alone
Going through IVF solo can be both empowering and isolating. Here’s what our patients have shared:
- “I felt strong—but I also needed to be held sometimes.”
- “People asked why I didn’t wait. They didn’t realize—I didn’t want to wait to live my life.”
- “Support matters. My sister came to every appointment. My best friend threw my baby shower.”
That’s why RCA builds emotional support into every part of care: patient coordinators who know you by name, therapists who specialize in solo parenting, and a community that gets it.
Planning for the Future—Your Way
Solo parents often think not just about pregnancy, but about parenting long-term. Questions to explore include:
- What kind of support will I need postpartum?
- Do I want my child to have a relationship with their donor?
- Should I tell my employer now, later, or not at all?
- How will I talk to my child about their origin story?
We walk with you through these conversations—not just the science.
You Are Not Alone—Even When You’re “Solo”
Thousands of individuals around the world have built beautiful families on their own—and so can you. If you’ve been wondering whether it’s time, or whether you’re “allowed” to take this step without a partner… the answer is yes. You are allowed. You are enough. You are not alone.
